Grief or Depression, what's the difference?

Depression(1): a state of feeling sad : dejection (2): a psychoneurotic or psychotic disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spent sleeping, feelings of dejection and hopelessness, and sometimes suicidal tendencies (http://www.merriam-webster.com/ )

c (1): a reduction in activity, amount, quality, or force (2): a lowering of vitality or functional activity

Grief : deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement

b: a cause of such suffering (http://www.merriam-webster.com/)

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Can you really separate depression and grief?  Doctors call losing a child grief, depression.

 

 

Dustin and Luke

 In 2005 I lost my only child my son, Dustin in a car accident.  Instantly a black hole sucks you in forever.  The pain never leaves, the broken heart is always there, a part of you died when your child died.

They tell me I am depressed….no I am grieving. Everything in life is looked at so differently than ever before.  There is never a time you can take a wonderful stretch and a huge yawn and feel relaxed.  It just ain’t there anymore.  Before you close your eyes at night and the first thought of every morning is, “How do I get through this day without Dustin?”  I lay for a brief moment then get up and start my new “abnormal” normal day.

 Since Dustin’s death I just have to roll with the punches.  Changing directions (mentally and emotionally) many times throughout the day is another part of life I now live.

Changing directions is like having detours you have to overcome.  The love of my life suffered a massive stroke in 2011.  Learning all about strokes, therapy, care giving has really kept me busy.  Michael was in rehab from February 11, 2011 to June 23, 2011.  Finally he got to come home.  With so much to learn life was a bit hectic.

July 11, 2011 my Daddy passed away.  Again changing directions.  My 82 year old Mother decided she didn’t want to live in the country by herself so we moved her in with us.  Another direction change.

 

Me and Luke

 

March 9, 2011 my son's best friend and the one in the car accident with him passed away at 23 years of age, heroin overdose.  It was like losing Dustin all over again.  I wasn't sure I could make it but I did.  I miss him dearly.

With all of this around me I find it best to say I chose the right detours and have landed on my feet.  I like myself, my new “abnormal” normal life is good.  Do I still grieve it all?  Absolutely, my heart feels the hurt all the time but I have learned to work through the pain.  You can too!

“Rule your circumstances don’t let them rule you.”

Have a blessed day and learn to change directions.

Really???? Reality TV

Woke up early and it felt wonderful.  Everything was so silent.  Coffee tastes so much better in the quietness of ones thoughts.  Rarely is it ever quiet here so when the opportunity confronts me I grasp it and say....ahhhhhhh.

Soon I had to do something as cobwebs of my mind were edging me to get this blog started.  Where to start when a thousand toughts were yelling, "Pick me!"  So I pin pointed it to Reality Shows.

Even though I have tons of TV channels it seems that Reality Shows have come to this earth and invaded our entertainment.  So I say, enough is enough.  I must be the only one on the planet with this feeling as everyday there is a new Reality Show starting.  Come on, let's get over it and watch something real. 



As I child I would grumble when "Gunsmoke" came on as I knew that was the show for the night.  Lately "Gunsmoke" doesn't sound so bad.  At least there was some sense to it (not much!).  The ground breaking shows with Archie and Edith, that made you laugh. 

Has the entertainment industry forgotten how to program TV?

At this time I really don't want to whine too muh so for today this is just a taste.

Does anyone agree with me?